5.3 Communication, Refusal and Negotiation Skills (Pg 61)
Incrementally, children are taught the following:
- Negotiation often requires compromise (9-12 years old)
- Communicating sexual limits (15-18 years old)
- How to give and receive sexual consent (15-18 years old)
Is resisting peer pressure about asserting individual autonomy or about values?
5-8-year-old children must have the skill to say yes and no. This is a good life skill in general.
Given that this is sexuality education for young children, the door needs to be closed firm to sexual exploration lest sexual predators exploit them by tricking them into giving consent, even if momentarily.
9-12-year-old children must have the attitude that negotiation often requires compromise.
In the context of sexuality education, why is negotiation necessary? Why should children be taught to compromise?
This conversation is only necessary for couples entering marriage or already in marriage. Therefore, while this skill is useful in general, it is not age-appropriate here in CSE.
15-18-year-old teenagers must analyse examples of expressing personal needs and sexual limits. They must also demonstrate this “skill”.
How will teenagers know their sexual limits? Are they even supposed to have a range of sex acts that they consent to engage in? Communicating sexual limits is a skill that couples entering marriage or already in marriage should learn. Teaching this at a young age is inappropriate.
They must also illustrate examples of giving sexual consent and listening for sexual consent.
For teenagers, it is more beneficial to simply teach them to mean what they say – yes means yes, no means no. In the context of responding to sexual advances, they need adequate skills to reject such advances and ways to protect themselves.
Teenagers should not be taught to explore sexual limits which sometimes demean themselves in the process.
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1.1 Families
1.2 Friendship, Love and Romantic Relationships
1.3 Tolerance, Inclusion and Respect
1.4 Long-term Commitments and Parenting
2.1 Values and Sexuality
2.2 Human Rights and Sexuality
2.3 Culture, Society and Sexuality
3.1 The Social Construction of Gender and Gender Norms
3.2 Gender Equality, Stereotypes and Bias
3.3 Gender-based Violence
4.1 Violence
4.2 Consent, Privacy and Bodily Integrity
4.3 Safe Use of Information and Communication Technologies (ICTs)
5.1 Norms and Peer Influence on Sexual Behaviour
5.2 Decision-making
5.3 Communication, Refusal and Negotiation Skills
5.4 Media Literacy and Sexuality
5.5 Finding Help and Support
6.1 Sexual and Reproductive Anatomy and Physiology
6.2 Reproduction
6.3 Puberty
6.4 Body Image
7.1 Sex, Sexuality and the Sexual Life Cycle
7.2 Sexual Behaviour and Sexual Response
8.1 Pregnancy and Pregnancy Prevention
8.2 HIV and AIDS Stigma, Treatment, Care and Support
8.3 Understanding, Recognizing and Reducing the Risk of STIs, including HIV
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